tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4910967973177749008.post9118757952359268667..comments2023-04-04T10:50:12.858-04:00Comments on Evolution of an Aristocrat: Long Distance RelationshipsLynettehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00257255782191322399noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4910967973177749008.post-38489078402932786402013-09-08T11:11:50.173-04:002013-09-08T11:11:50.173-04:00In our modern society with the instant communicati...In our modern society with the instant communication and constant change for progress, people continuing to grow is inevitable. However, I don't always think that it is a bad thing or that people necessarily evolve in different directions. Your friends could suddenly develop a deep love of perfume or tea making and then you have anothing thing to discuss. What is important is being able to keep a conversation that doesn't depend on interaction. I have one friend from college with whom we have great conversations about comic books, movies and writing. Another long distant friend and I discuss writing and story ideas. Both of those friendships are still strong despite being very far from each of them.<br /><br />But there are friends that are friends of location and those tend to fade away. The best we can do is hope to change the nature of our relationship to keep it living and strong despite the pressure of life. Lynettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00257255782191322399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4910967973177749008.post-69894802093580280632013-09-08T11:07:38.495-04:002013-09-08T11:07:38.495-04:00Thank you. Mountains of journal entries gave their...Thank you. Mountains of journal entries gave their life to help me claw some sort of understanding from this event and even still there are so many questions. But trying to analyze helps me put it into perspective and, hopefully, learn the lessons to not repeat them.<br /><br />I'm glad that you and your Darkling have found your limit. Six weeks is a very long time.Lynettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00257255782191322399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4910967973177749008.post-16010341841782765242013-09-07T20:05:31.793-04:002013-09-07T20:05:31.793-04:00As an aromantic asexual romantic relationships are...As an aromantic asexual romantic relationships are very foreign to me. I haven't ever been, and will most probably never be, in that kind of relationship. However, I find a lot of this to be true for long distance friendships too. I have just moved away from the country where I studied for seven years and back to my home. I suspect that time and distance will erode the great friendships that I have left behind unless we make an effort to meet and do things together. I have a few friends left from my childhood but those friendships have largely eroded... We are simply not part of each others lives anymore. We have only memories to base our friendships on, no new experience, no current common ground. I fear that the same thing will happen again and am saddened. Those friendships will probably change a bit whatever I do. People grow apart, grow in different directions, when not in regular contact. It's probably inevitable.LaDomnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03048994000923041885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4910967973177749008.post-8863554951699626842013-09-07T15:32:32.998-04:002013-09-07T15:32:32.998-04:00I empathize. In my past, I tried to work 2 (yep, 2...I empathize. In my past, I tried to work 2 (yep, 2) long distance relationships. I fell into all the bad habits you mention - including other people. The Darkling and I lived apart for about 6 weeks of our marriage: we established that 6 days is actually the limit. :)<br /><br />It is amazing that you have been able to put to words the things you have learned through this. It took me months or even years. Good work. Keep doing your good work.Eco In Blackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08790374802740736916noreply@blogger.com